Gossip.....A Plague That Destroy Relationship......

Gossip.....A plague that will destroy relationship. It just like a fire burns the whole village. Gossip had been a bad things in life. Why people love to gossip? Aren't they will bored of gossip people that is innocent. Even it is real, speak frankly to the person that should know. Why people need to spread gossip that can hurt people. Haven't they think that when other person gossip at them, how will they fell. It's very hurtful. Even it can make people not trusted to the person who gossip around and the people around him/her. It's makes relationship broken. If the member of a team or an organization will split up into different group and will not united together. Gossip is like a plague that had affected people in my hometown. A single gossip can make people not trust you again. If a gossip spread around in a church, the church will not united as one body. We will fall apart and unable to united together to serving God. That why I sick of gossip and lies. I decided to speak frankly and honestly. I had known the consequences of spreading gossip. It was cruel thing that had hurt much people. As christian, we must not gossip. We must encourage our friends and leader all the time instead of spreading cruel and hurtful gossip.
In James 3: 2 - 6 in the Bible (New Living Translation):

"We all make many mistakes, but those who control their tongues can also themselves in every other way. We can make a large horse turn around and go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a tiny rubber makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot wants it to go, even though the winds are strong. So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. A tiny spark can get a great forest on fire. And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is full of wickness that can ruin your whole life. It can turn the entire course of your life into a blazing flame of destruction, for it is set on fire by hell itself."

That is why gossip is a bad things in our life. It hurt people heart. Just like backstab a person.

What Happens When We Lie?
• We damage relationships with others

• We poison our own soul
Psalms 58: 3 – 4 “Even from birth the wicked go astray; from the womb they are wayward and speak lies. Their venom is like the venom of a snake, like that of a cobra that has stopped its ears.”

• We will face God’s judgment
Revelations 21: 8 “…all liars - their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”

: A one of the weekly sermon at Church of Holy Saviour, Labuan http://www.cohs.info/sermons.htm

We should speak frankly to people because gossip hurt people's heart. If a heart had been hurt, it's hard to heal. The truth will set you free.

Among The Differences

I had dream before to write a book that title's "Among The Differences", a story about how to became a friends among different people and races. Recently, i had just drove my dad's car and i had not drove it well because i still not used to it. My father scolded my all my way to drive the car because i still seems nervous and not used of the car. Sigh....me might get a "saman" from a police because driving so fast when turn to left/right. Sigh.....my fathers always scold me when i drive the car careless, but i must learn to patient from my father oh because he is an very easily angry person oh. Actually my father is an ok and caring person but he sometimes scolded people don't see the condition. Among the difference, i used to be among different people with different age, group, races and custom. I can used to have friend with malays, chinese, indian(that ok a bit lah because not very used to them) and kadazan. I less though off reputation, ranks, and wealth to see people but sometimes see at face la. I got work at church as a youth volunteer for 3 month, so i get used with my kadazan (speak malay one lah) friends and i had gone to the kampung (village) or at BDC(a place where many foreign citizen lives and a poverty) to have a ministry (children ministry) and helping to takes some clothes to give to the kids at there. It's a good time because I had never gone there. Among different people is something that i already used to be. My best friends from the youth cell are someones is from different background and family. They had help me much in my life. I just now realized that God had given me many different kinds of friends in my life. Thanks God. I never look down on the malay spoken people but i just don't like some of them whose attidude that is not very good. Mostly chinese people at my school (now la) not very used with malay people but i can interact with some of them. Crazy around with them, jokes around, and etc. It's a good moment when we are among differences people because everyone in this world is unique. Yet I still learn to comunicate with people well (especially girls) and ask God for a willing heart to help me. Wah, what a unique group that consist people that are from different background, races, and etc and work together up. Oh Lord guide me through my social life. Tonight I need to pray to God oh. Today i got learn about disipline of prayer from the sermon. The rector said that prayer can lead you to have a good relationship with Him and comunicate with Him. I need to pray much oh because I seldom pray already. I want to discipline myself to pray everyday so that i can learn and have a good relationship with God. Now i heard the songs from the album: Hillsong United We Stand, it's a good songs to hear and learn. I wish that our youth will be like the youth in Hillsong church. It'll be great that we are among thousands of youth to praise God like the concert in Hillsong and Planetshakers. I just recently get my sister comment and read some blog at the local churches in Sabah. It said that willing is a key to have faith with God. I ask God for a willing heart. O Lord strengthen me through out my life.

At Last, A Hope Can Be Find......

For a few days ago, a long weakness still hidden in me came out to haunted me in my life. This problem is from my fear during my schoolhood in secondary school. I always asking myself why I always been quiet and silent people. What wrong with me. Why I will become the most silent people in the class while I was studying for 5 years in my ex-secondary school. Actually I had a problem in comunication problem with people especially talking to girls. It's was my one of my weakness that I had afraid of for a long time in my life. It was a social problem that I had burried in my heart for a long time. It's almost every guys' problem. This haunted weakness had making me so afraid and bored for many days. I had seek for many of my friends' advices that can help me throughout this weakness I had. Human are not perfect. At last, I got a very helping advice today from a friend of mine, Joash that help me much in my life. He said that I had not open up myself for a long time. As I was in a plastic wrap, wrapping myself up into it and stuck myself into it. It's been a long time that I had not open myself of the plastic wrap for a long time. He said I should try my best to came out from plastic wrap and set free myself. It must gone through a long painful path to learn to be open up myself up. To be open is mean open minded when to comunicate, thinking and etc. To see things wider than before. I was been afraid that when I talk to a new person especially girls, I was afraid that I will be look down or saying that I am weird or etc. The reality is when you treat a person well, they will treat you well as he told to me. Even afraid of been rejected or saying that I am weird or etc, take the first step to know someone you wish to know and have a friendship with them. It' cannot by force because I might hurt people feeling just like I pour a glass of cold water to a glass of hot water immediately, it will shatter the glass into pieces. That mean doing things that mean by force can hurt someone else. Every thing is start from the bottom to the highest place. It'll be the a painfull walk to open up myself to be a better person. It's need sacrifice. Just like Jesus that loves us all even we are sinner because he already been through all the challenges and make a sacrifice to all the mankind of the earth so that we can have a relationship with God. Even though we are sinner before God and we are dirty to face a holy God, He choose to sacrifice himself as a Lamb Of God to get us all to have a relationship with Him. He choose to love us unconditionaly even we are sinner. Just as like Jesus, i as christian want to love people unconditionaly and don't expect any gift or a return back to me. It's a hard and painful road to walk through but after it I will get something that is more precious than things in the world which is love and the friendship I have and cherished. I must began to lay down my burden to God so that I will not suffer so much to have this big burden. God had told us give our burden to Him so we can set free ourselves and have faith in Him. Joash said that I was like a guy with a full sack of things walking in the desert for a long time to some place. Suddenly a guy with a car came through ask I for a lift to his car because we are on the same destination. I agree and get into his car and he began to drive the car. Yet I was in the car, I had not put down my sack of things down into the car instead standing with the sack and standing on the car. Joash said that I had not yet learn to put down the sack and rest in the car. God was like the driver in the car that He can help you to reduce your tiredness lifting a full sack of burden. I was just like the guy that lifting the sack and standing on the car. If I had put down all things on it, i can rest and refresh again. It's need faith that give all the burden to Jesus. Oh, I need to prayed this night for all the problem I had. Oh Lord refresh my life.